So it's no surprise when a woman who has been hurt by such a man, wants to lash out If this sounds like you -- many of us have been there before, you are not alone You want to purge yourself of the disgust, disgrace and anger you feel about even being involved with him in the first place You need to vent! To anyone and everyone who will listenSo why is a therapist writing an article telling you NOT to vent? Well, there is constructive venting - and then there is character bashing And even if your ex is without much character:), the question is do you want to sink to that level? And will getting down and dirty free you from the rage you feel? Probably not1 Bad-mouthing your ex is a waste of your time and energy Power you could be using to do something more positive and productive in your own life2 Bad-mouthing is beneath you, and when taken too far can make you appear to be a bit "pathetic" or a "victim"3 Bad-mouthing is toxic You will be in a negative frame of mind, polluting your own body with thoughts of someone you should put behind you4 Bad-mouthing is rarely used as a real warning to other women More than not - it's usually a way to assassinate the ex's character to other people who know him5 Bad-mouthing and venting are not synonymous If you have the desire to talk about how you've been treated in your relationship - talk to one trusted person or professional who will not spread what you've said into your "inner circle" of friends, family, and associates
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